The Surprising Reason You May be More Likely to Get a Divorce
No one ever enters into a marriage thinking that it will end up in a divorce. While the idea that 50 percent of marriages end in divorce is no longer a true one, there are a number of factors that have been proven to be significant reasons on why couples no longer wish to be […]
No one ever enters into a marriage thinking that it will end up in a divorce. While the idea that 50 percent of marriages end in divorce is no longer a true one, there are a number of factors that have been proven to be significant reasons on why couples no longer wish to be together. Obviously, situations that involve cheating or unfaithfulness are a big part of why some relationships no longer last. However, there are some other circumstances that may not be so obvious that have shown to be major reasons why people are more likely to get a divorce than others.
The Erosion of Gender Roles
According to a new study, many couples that start off with more “traditional” gender roles where the husband is the one who brings in the higher income while the wife is either the one who stays at home to take care of the family and/or does not make as much money as her partner. These types of relationships become greatly impacted when the woman ends up finding a way to start earning more than her husband. Whether it is by starting her own business or by entering into a new career that takes off for her, this shift in dynamic has been proven to lead to more divorces when the marriage began in a more traditional way. Whether this is because the male feels threatened by his wife’s new role, the husband does not support the wife’s new venture, or even if the husband feels as though his wife’s success is some sort of “attack” on him, studies have shown that this break in the status quo often leads to one or both parties wanting a divorce.
Discussing Future Possibilities
The reason that this shift in dynamic is such a shock to the relationship is that many couples do not have the foresight to have a discussion early on in their marriage about how they will feel if this ends up being the situation. By talking about this possibility before you get married you can have a much clearer idea about how you will both feel if this ends up being the case and in turn, can make a plan on how to deal with it if and when that time ever comes. For many, this reversal in roles can be such a surprise that either one or both of the parties do not know exactly how to handle these new changes, which is why being proactive is the best way to go about handling it. By being aware of what you both want and what your intentions are from the beginning you will go a long way in being able to prevent a divorce from happening in the future.
Communication and Equality is Key
Being open about what one’s goals are for themselves as well as the unit they will become is extremely important in making a marriage work. By communicating your dreams and being able to exchange ideas on equal ground it is not only healthy but it is a surefire way to make sure neither one of you is ever taken by surprise by the actions of the other and therefore you will be less likely to end up in a circumstance that leads to such hardships. Communicating your feelings and ideas from the beginning and treating each other as equals are important tools in having a good marriage and one of your best defenses against ending up in a divorce.
Schedule a Consultation with a New Jersey Divorce Lawyer Today
It is important to be aware of the main reasons that people get divorced, but even having that knowledge will not always be enough to avoid the inevitable. If you find out that you do wish to get a divorce you will want to contact the knowledgeable divorce lawyers at Davis and Mendelson today to schedule your consultation. Call us at 866-560-9512 or fill out our convenient online contact form today.
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